The last
time I went home to California I had the privilege to hang out with some of the
greatest people I’ve ever been friends with.
They are people that are on the same wave length as me, who inspire me
and motivate me to be myself to the 100th percent. One friend called this bond “my people” and
said that it was hard to find your people sometimes. But when you do, you know it. It’s like in Anne of Green Gables where she
makes friends, even has a friend she loves very much, but sometimes finds those
people she calls “kindred spirits”. I’m
still looking for my people here. There
are glimpses of it in acquaintances, but our generation is so busy that it’s
hard to make new, true friends that stick.
And isn’t
the dream that I could find a man whom I recognized as a kindred spirit, then
grow a friendship that (hopefully) is leading to an exciting relationship? Where are my kindred men? Are they in Iowa?
Yes, I do have a couple of updates from the world
of online dating! I have met or "met" both of the men I mentioned in my last post.
The one I met in person was the ethnic loving guy Forrest. We ended up going out to breakfast on a
Friday morning about a week ago. Right
off the bat I was feeling way more awkward than I usually do on dates, maybe
mostly because I didn’t find him attractive in person. I was hoping his personality would turn
things around, but it didn’t. He went on
a lot of long monologues about things that I can’t even remember to describe to
you. And I was surprised to hear him
mention that he was previously married and talked about his children that weren’t
biologically his, but that he considered his own. This was a surprise because he didn’t mention
kids at all in his profile. To be fair,
it seemed like he was intentionally mentioning it since he knew I had no
idea. Anyway, it just wasn’t clicking. Haven’t heard from him since either. Whew!
The other
guy, Brad, asked me if I wanted to Skype after we’d exchanged around fourteen
emails since the beginning of June. I’ve
never Skyped before so I had to install it to make it happen. How do you even have a first date on
Skype? People do this. I have a friend who lives here that got to
know her now boyfriend in Texas this way.
The combination of nervousness and a bit too much time on my hands
caused me to flat iron my hair and thoroughly clean my bedroom where the
Skyping would take place. I realized
when I finished that he would definitely not be seeing anything but the wall
behind me. But my hair looked great so
at least that was a good move!
We “met” last
night at exactly 8pm (he was punctual, like to the minute. Sweet!) and talked until around 10:15pm. On my end I think it went very well! He was incredibly cute in person and has the
sweetest Midwestern accent that reminded me of Kevin Costner for some reason
(Iowa cornfields maybe?). We made each
other laugh just as much in person as when we emailed. And it was nice to see with the proof of his
laughter that he thought I was funny! I
told him in an email that I was afraid that he’d be sitting in a leather
armchair, in front of a fireplace, smoking a pipe with a Doberman napping at
his feet on a bear skin rug. He said he
was afraid that I was a cannibalistic stalker, followed by assurances that he’d
lost weight recently and would be much less tempting to murder than his
pictures may lead me to believe. Have I
found a winner? I hope so. Hope?
It’s back!!!
P.S. Somehow he went from being 38 to 40 years old! That's 8 years older than me!!! He's lucky he's so likable or else that'd make me hesitate!
