Behold, it
is now six months from when I signed up for the not free site and gave them
over $200 to help me meet men. And
hark! Today is the day when I cancel my
subscription (since I researched and found it will be automatically renewed
“for my convenience”). I have not met a
single man in person for my money. I
have communicated, for various time-lengths, with dozens of men. Emailed with two (technically) and had a
phone call with zero. I hereby declare
this dating adventure to be a failure. I
am not a failure (I remind myself), but it is the site and the men on it who
have failed me. And maybe God chased
them all away like a Dad with a shotgun yelling “Ain’t none of you boys good
enough for my baby girl!”. I don’t
really think of God as a hillbilly, but I do wonder if all this is Him
protecting me.
Can I just
rant for a second about boring profiles?
I imagine some of these guys aren’t boring, it’s just that they don’t
know how to express who they are and show their personality in their profile. On either site (but more so on the not free
one) it’s 90% guys who say that they are passionate about working out, are
easy-going, like to have fun (really!),
loves to laugh (imagine!), looking for someone “genuine”/”down to earth”
(who’s the opposite of the latter, really?) and so on. The “Things I Can’t Live Without” section, to
me, is begging to have something funny in it.
Not a space to list “air, water, food, health and shelter”. That tells me nothing about you except that
you are 100% a human being and 100% without a sense of humor.
The good
news is that I’m communicating with one (er… two) interesting fellows on the
free site. The first lives in my area
and is 39 (let’s call him Forrest). When
did seven years older than me become a reality in people I’d date? I guess now it is. As of today we have a coffee date next
week! The only thing about him (enter
the “er…”) is that in his profile he mentions a couple of times how he likes
ethnic girls who tend to be “browner”.
Cringe/that’s me! In our emails
though he seems way cooler than that bit, so we’ll see about that.
The other
fellow (let’s call him Brad) lives in Iowa, but we’re having really great
emails that are much longer than with Forrest.
He’s funnier, has more interesting spiritual things to say and is a nice
38 years old. Okay that last part isn’t
a big deal. I mean, I'd date George Clooney no matter what age either of us were!